Paint the colours you want to see

Paint colours you want to see

Live the person you want to be;



Let your frights sit on their own

Let them fear the light you shone;

Colour hard outside the lines

And your heart will see the signs;



Breathe in miracles inspired

From the love you’ve so desired;

Let it happen as it should

Let it be – let it be good;


Trust your path, my love, my life;

Trust the power drawn from strife

Trust the magic in your hands

Trust that life’s beyond your plans;


Let it sound among your veins

Let it weave all of your strains

Let them bind your pains as one

Let them as a thread be spun

Just to grab and pull apart

lose it all and open your heart.









It felt like the color drained from the world

thoughts,sounds… collided and whirled


It felt as if life became infected

and my heart suddenly disconnected

I couldn’t breathe, or think, or scream

couldn’t even pray to be just a dream;

I was just immobilized by an intense fear

that was holding hostage everything I deem as dear.

When heroes break

There comes a moment where your heroes break

and they shatter into tiny specs of light.

There comes that moment where you see

heroes are just like you, like me;

the only thing that sets them apart

is that you carry them in your heart

and even when they break

even as imperfect form they’re still facets of the sun

and through their cracks seeps star dust;

a tiny flaw that makes their shine more bearable to us.

There comes a moment where your heroes break

and you just wonder in a daze how blessed you are

to have touched a little bit of the sun without getting scorched.


Jack Welch, former CEO of General Electric, a man with a 40 year career under his belt, wrote “Winning” as a compelling management guide for those wanting an in-depth look into what success is and how it can be achieved.

Now, besides the fact that I concluded that Jack’s recommended system on finding great employees is basically my way of picking a date, I realised also that what Welch highlights most in his book is actually a self-development/spirituality basic: attitude. Eckhart Tolle, Ramana Maharshi, Robert Adams, Jack Canfield and many other motivational speakers, spiritual leaders and similar types have stressed all the points Jack makes in his book, albeit, his approach being from a business perspective rather than a spiritual one.

Attitude improvement is the first thing you learn about when you start self-development. You learn that the world is limitless and your attitude is the only thing limiting your options. You heard me, your attitude limits your options. And most of the time your attitude draws on your ego, on this fragile self-image we all try to build in our minds over the course of our lives in the effort to build a comfort zone,  to feel special, needed, wanted, irreplaceable. But all that’s all non-sense.

You continue to go on even if you are replaced, not needed, wanted etc, and quite successfully I would say, as long as depression doesn’t become your imaginary BFF.

Of course, he emphasises that talent, experience & expertise are important, but the chances of winning without the right attitude are severely diminished. The right mind-set isn’t important just because happy people are nice to have around, rather that when a situation becomes challenging that individual perseveres in the face of adversity. Fear is crippling. And when you understand that fear is nothing but your own internal limitation you start seeing the world from a different angle. Your self-confidence grows immensely under this realisation. It grows because if you come to the conclusion that your happiness is solely your choice you realise how blessed you are. When you realise how blessed you are you no longer fight the world in an attempt to show how special you are, you support the world because you understand this blessing comes with the responsibility of helping others find their own way too. It is a circle of self-esteem, self-awareness and giving back.

Thing is, although for some of us that self-esteem is cultivated from an early age, for those less fortunate, self-confidence it is a habit-harnessing system that we knowingly put in place in order to build and sustain it.

It is a choice we make to act as the holders of our own lives and not the victims of our surrounding circumstances. It is a letting go practice of everything that is outside our control and a transparent way of being. I say transparent as Jack talks a lot about candour, and while he obviously refers to its role in business, candour applies as a general attribute to all the successful individuals I have known over the course of my existence. Successful individuals understand that the best way to tackle a situation is to make it as simple as possible.

Transparency as I call it, and candour as he does, has the ability to do just that: untangle the knots of any one situation, be it in business or your personal life. And once you know what you are dealing with you can finally make a choice on how to move forward.

All in all, Jack’s “Winning” extends far beyond business, into the realm of winning in life.

The bi-positive open relationship

Bi. Bi-sexual. Bi. Bi-polar. Bi. Neither one way or the other. Bi. The encouragement of opportunity. Bi. The allowing stance of societal and cultural standards but the understanding that there can be so much more. Bi. The freedom to choose individual standards and beliefs. The freedom to purpose, happiness and choice. Bi. Yin and Yang.

There’s a connection that we often miss. There is so much more in all of us, it is such a pity we’re too busy covering our shine up with our egos. It’s a pity we don’t walk our own paths but stride in shyness alongside others’.

Everyone can move mountains. Everyone can conjure magic. And there’s no standard to it. Success is self measured. If we’d all understand this, we’d connect better. If we knew the difference between needs and wants, we’d see each other better. If we let go of SHOULD we’d hear each other instead of interpret.

There are no rules. There are no standards. There are no limits.

Opportunity is. Love is. Being is. And on that trail of thought,if I could ever give any advice to what has helped throughout my journey:

Reach out to others. Do it often.

Find what is important to you.

Go with your soul.

Judge nothing.

Trust your gut.

Believe in yourself.

Ask questions often.

Allow people to see you.

Take nothing personal.

Do your best.

Don’t compete, even with yourself.

Live now.

Understand that limits are always self-imposed.

Understand everything in your life is a choice you already made.

Choose to be happy.

Thank people often.

Be grateful.


Give yourself a break.

Let go of expectations. Anything you can’t control, you should let go of.